I began this year contemplating gratitude for the people in my life, with deep appreciation for my family, community, customers, members, and subscribers. Most of all, I am grateful for my daughter.
I always wanted several children, but ended up having only one. But this one is more than enough! There is so much about my daughter that is beyond amazing. At the young age of 19, she’s compassionate, bright, intelligent, beautiful, loving, independent, motivated, and aware. She’s in her second year of college, heading down a path into the medical world with eyes wide open. She wants to become a nurse practitioner and truly wants to help people in need. She already knows a lot about health and healing, and we need more people like her in medicine.
I’m not saying all this to brag – well ok, maybe I am. 🙂 I’m saying this to encourage you to frequently consider all you are grateful for about your children. What do you really like about them? What are their best qualities? Does he make you laugh? Does her smile light up your day?
I realize that many of you are dealing with difficult situations. Perhaps your child has been labeled as ADHD or autistic or is dealing with a challenging chronic illness. Some days it can be extremely difficult to find just one thing you are grateful for. However, the rewards might be astonishing. Not only does a state of appreciation shift you into feeling better, it can transform your relationship with your child.
Children are intuitive. Even when no words are spoken, they can feel our admiration, approval, and appreciation as well as our judgments and disappointments. And it’s amazing how children will live into our expectations of them.
If you are dealing with a challenging situation and don’t know what your child needs, perhaps it’s wise to take a step back and assess how you feel. Are you feeling some resentment, maybe a little anger? Or disappointed in your child? First, give yourself a break. It’s difficult being a parent and your feelings are valid. As parents, we all feel that way about our kids from time to time. And at the same time we have tremendous love for them.
What is your highest vision for your child? What would it look like and how would it feel to see him in this way? What about him are you grateful for right now, in this moment? What are her unique gifts? See if you can go about your day with these thoughts in mind.
If your child has a chronic health issue, you likely have a lot of people providing their opinions on what you should do. Family members, friends, teachers, doctors – they all think they know what’s best. But they don’t know your child the way you do. So how can they tell you what’s right for your unique child?
What I have found is that when I aligned with positive, appreciative thoughts about myself and my child, the answers came. When I stopped focusing on the problem, and instead focused on the desired outcome, the solution usually showed up. When you can regularly appreciate your child’s unique gifts and see her at her highest and greatest potential, you may find the answers as well.
Finding the right healing approach for your unique situation requires a combination of valid information and science, plus vision and intuitive awareness. In the CureChild program, we teach about holistic medicine, providing the best scientific information while assisting you in finding what’s right for you and your child.